Friendships with the Pastor Pt 4
Pastor Craig’s heart continues to shine through as he shares what it is like to be a pastor and the questions he often asks himself. Feel free to plug your name in there too.
Is It Worth It?
If you’ve been in ministry for more than a year, I’m guessing you’ve been hurt badly. Because churches are full of people, the potential for hurt feelings and misunderstandings couldn’t be higher. Add to the mix church committees, boards, salary discussions, moral failures, church splits, or theological debates, and the odds of pain increase infinitely.
I’ll tell you honestly that Amy and I have hurt so deeply that we’ve wanted to leave ministry more than once. We’ve cried more private tears than anyone will ever know. We’ve battled bitterness, anger, resentment, and loneliness.
We often asked, “Is it even worth opening up to those who will likely hurt and reject us?” If you are wondering if it is worth risking more relational hurt again, I’d reply with an emphatic yes.
Here are some reasons:
- If you don’t build intimate friendships with other couples, your marriage will suffer.
- If you don’t build intimate relationships, your effectiveness as a minister will be limited.
- If you don’t share your life with other believers, your relationship with Christ will be challenged.
- If you don’t learn to forgive, you’ll never effectively preach and minister the forgiveness of Christ.
Like Jesus who went back to love Peter after Peter denied Him three times, WE HAVE TO GO BACK AND LOVE GOD’S PEOPLE AGAIN. We are called to love and that means we must be open. If we aren’t growing in intimacy with other Christ-followers, we are in trouble.