How to increase your Pain Threshold

If you’ve been faithfully reading my entries on the Pain Threshold, here’s what you’ve been waiting for. Yesterday, I gave you a sneak peak when I shared with you the first two ways you can increase your Pain Threshold:

1. Recognize that we all have different levels of pain we can handle, and

2. Identify your pain triggers.

Today, I’d like to share with you two more ways to increase your Pain Threshold, which in turn will increase your ability to be more successful in ministry, relationships, and life.

First, talk about it! The best thing you can do is to get it out in the open and express what you are dealing with. Find someone trustworthy who you can share your pain with. For me, my husband is the person I am able to share with. Now, he hasn’t always been the best at understanding my hurts, but he’s so much better than he was when we first were married 15 years ago. You see, Troy did not grow up in a house where they talked about things, especially hurts and pain. When I used to try to talk to him about my pain he just didn’t get it. He was sympathetic and would look at me as if to say, “Poor thing. I don’t get you at all, but poor thing.” I was looking for him to connect, and he tried, but he didn’t understand his own pains enough to understand mine. Mind you, if you are like this, unable to express and feel pain, you are in denial. If you don’t choose to work through it in a healthy way, it will come out anyway. Troy went through that a year and a half ago when he had a panic attack. He has since learned how to express and deal with his pain in a healthy way, but this is an example of the difference between having a high pain threshold and being in denial. (I would love to see comments from men on why they are in denial over their pain.)

Second, understand the seasons. When you are really accomplishing something you will find that you’ll go through “stuff.” I’ve heard this aptly called the “Dirty Stall Syndrome.” This refers to the Bible verse that essentially says where there are no oxen, the trough is clean. In other words, when the oxen are present you are accomplishing something. There is a harvest being gathered and they are helping process the abundance of the field. With oxen comes progress, but so does mess! They poop and they stink up the stall, but without them there is no harvest. If you don’t have any mess in your life, it might be that you just aren’t doing much of value. If you have a ministry or a business where you are actively helping people, you’ll find messes that have to be cleaned up. So, what is the alternative? No stalls to clean out because there is no harvest. I would rather have some stalls to clean. How about you?

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~ by pennymaxwell on December 1, 2007.

2 Responses to “How to increase your Pain Threshold”

  1. I believe that most men have a “suck it up mindset.” We have been taught that if we feel pain, we just suck it up and move on. I believe we can handle more than women in general, but what happens is when we are hurt deeply and just stuff it, then we are in danger of an explosion one day. This happens when out little emotional sack gets stuffed so full it has nowhere else to go but all over everyone else around us. In general men don’t talk about their pain with other men because it’s just not manly to appear vulnerable. But when men do get real with each other something powerful happens. A nation can be changed. This was something a saw early in my Christian walk through Promise Keepers events. These were powerful expressions of what it meant to be a “tender warrior.”

  2. wow that was deep

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