How do you handle hurt?
I hope you read my earlier blog, “Do you Dream Together,” where I talked about how couples thrive when they share a common dream. It doesn’t matter what dream you share, as long as you dream it together. For us, it is church building. For you, it may be building a successful business. Both are really forms of ministry because in any job, as Christians, we are called to help people. In any venue God chooses to use us, we can have a huge impact if we work as a team. Everything we do is ministry if we do as the Bible says and do everything as unto the Lord.
Knowing that the dreams God has given us are our ministry, I want to share with you one hindrance couples commonly face in being successful in seeing their dreams come true. It is called the Pain Threshold. What do I mean by this? Well, ministry is a full contact sport. You take hits, you get pounded, and you get cut and bruised. You see, there is no opting out of pain when you deal with people. The Bible says we are to weep with those who weep and rejoice with those who rejoice. Weep? Yes, ministry isn’t all about rejoicing, there will be weeping too. Real people have real issues and we have to get into the trenches with them if we want to help them. In ministry we deal with people’s money, people’s problems, people’s past, people’s families, and on and on. Quite literally, we are dealing with people’s eternity. That is so HUGE.
When someone you are trying to help hurts you, and trust me this is inevitable, how do you respond? Do you retreat or pull away? Do you duck and cover? Do you deny that you are even hurt? Do you retaliate or completely fall to pieces? Do you numb yourself so you won’t feel hurt again?
If you can’t handle the hurt, your ministry will stagnate because your ministry will only grow to the level of your Pain Threshold, the amount of pain you are able to withstand or handle. So, if you can’t take the hit, take some time to figure out why, because that proverbial glass ceiling will only limit what you can accomplish. The higher you are in leadership, whether it is in your job or your church, the greater your pain management skills must be. Keep in mind that your gifts and talents can take you far beyond the pain you are able to bear. If you think that’s a good place to be in, just look at Britney Spears. Instead, understand your Pain Threshold and how it currently limits your effectiveness and cultivate your pain management skills.
Tomorrow and the days to come I will talk more about this. Stay tuned.